Linda, 34
Submitted Feb 25, 2007
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Linda has never met her father |
My story...IĀ've been visiting this site on several occasions before, but never felt ready to share my story. Until now. Well my mother had a short fling with my biological father during a few weeks. They didnĀ't use protection and I was "made". Although a blood test showed that he was my father he has always denied the possibility (or fact) of him beeing my biological father. He broke up with my mother because she refused to have an abortion. When I was less than a year old he went to Australia, where he still lives. He has never seen or met me. I have known about him since as long as I can remember. My mother has always been very open about this, at least with me, although she doesnĀ't like talking about it. I guess itĀ's still painful or perhaps she feels ashamed. I donĀ't know. She did however help me a lot when I began searching for him. Without her I probably wouldnĀ't have found him or have had great trouble finding him since I found out that IĀ'm basicly a family secret in his family.
I have always wanted to meet him, at least until I contacted him about 7-8 years ago. I wrote him a letter telling him who I was and that I didĀ't blame him for anything. He replied and we exchanged a few letters. I send him a christmas card every year, just as a nice gesture. IĀ'm quite satisfied whith how things are now, and donĀ't feel like I need to meet him. Perhaps in the future some day. He has answered my questions and I donĀ't have any new ones to ask at the moment. He hasnĀ't a new family - IĀ'm his only child, which I believe has made things a little bit easier.
IĀ'm not angry and donĀ't feel bad in anyway. I donĀ't hate or love him simply because I donĀ't know him. He made a stupid decision more than 30 years ago but I donĀ't blame him for it. Neither he or my mother can change what has happened. IĀ'm happy today and IĀ'm very grateful to my motherĀ's openess about this, which IĀ've told her on several occasions. My stepfather however has been jealous at times, but I think he knows now that no one can take his place in my heart. My biological father doesnĀ't have a place in my heart, he does however have a huge place in my mind.
/Linda
I have always wanted to meet him, at least until I contacted him about 7-8 years ago. I wrote him a letter telling him who I was and that I didĀ't blame him for anything. He replied and we exchanged a few letters. I send him a christmas card every year, just as a nice gesture. IĀ'm quite satisfied whith how things are now, and donĀ't feel like I need to meet him. Perhaps in the future some day. He has answered my questions and I donĀ't have any new ones to ask at the moment. He hasnĀ't a new family - IĀ'm his only child, which I believe has made things a little bit easier.
IĀ'm not angry and donĀ't feel bad in anyway. I donĀ't hate or love him simply because I donĀ't know him. He made a stupid decision more than 30 years ago but I donĀ't blame him for it. Neither he or my mother can change what has happened. IĀ'm happy today and IĀ'm very grateful to my motherĀ's openess about this, which IĀ've told her on several occasions. My stepfather however has been jealous at times, but I think he knows now that no one can take his place in my heart. My biological father doesnĀ't have a place in my heart, he does however have a huge place in my mind.
/Linda
