Jade, 41
Submitted Sep 22, 2006
Have met my father Jade has met her father
Decided to not stay in contact Jade decided not to stay in contact with her father
My father has a new family Jade's father has a new family
I met my biological father for the first time when I was 19 years old.

I grew up with a stepfather from the age of 3. My stepfather started to have problems with alcohol when I was a teenager.

My relationship to him wasn't good from the start and because of his problems it got worse.

My mother and my stepfather divorced then I was 19, and I didn't have any contact with him after that. For some years ago he died in cancer.

My biolocical father and I, have never got to know each other properly. I realized that he also had problems with alcohol and dropped all contact with him. I felt that it was going to be too much for me.

I think that this have affected me to be the  person I am today. I have never been ashamed for not being loved. But I think that it has given me oidipal conflicts that I never have solved.

The lack of a father has given me difficulties to have good relationships to the opposite sex.